Look around at any Halloween party and notice just how many white suburban men dress in pimp costumes. There are dozens and dozens of them, shy software testers, accountants, dentists, and other normal run-of-the-mill men mock-strutting around with a cane and a pimp cup.
The pimp costume is so popular because it’s the opposite of how most men feel around women. In real life, the average guy gets nauseous at the prospect of kissing a girl at the end of a first date. So he envies the pimp’s confidence, the pimp’s swagger, the pimp’s consummate knowledge at how to mack.
You probably feel this way yourself, scared to kiss a woman, or unable to make a move even though all the signals are there that the time is right.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Neil Strauss was a quiet, shy, passive reporter who transformed himself into the world’s greatest pickup artist. He then launched Stylelife Academy to teach thousands of men how to mack like the most confident pimp, golden chalice not necessary.
If you find yourself getting rooted in place, unable to act when the moment is right, keep the following strategies in mind:
How To Mack Tips
1. Escalate Physical Contact
Pickup artists use the term “kino” to describe physical contact between men and women. There are thousands of different acts that would be considered kino, everything from a simple pat on the back to a full-on make-out. When you go for a kiss at the end of the night should not be the first act of kino. This will seem abrupt and intrusive.
However, if you gradually escalate your kino throughout the interaction with the woman, then the temperature will rise slowly and organically. If you playfully touched her early in the evening, then held hands later, then put your arm around her later still, and then go to kiss her at the end of the night, the situation has had a chance to build and rise and a romantic interlude will seem inevitable. Whereas if you ignore all physical contact for six hours and then amateurishly lunge for a kiss at the end of the night, you’ll seem clumsy and awkward.
2. Kiss Closes
There are tons of strategies for getting a kiss and having other adventures. These are mechanisms that greatly increase your chance for success. And they frequently run counter to what the average guy does every night. For example, would you believe that biting a woman in a bar can be a very effective way to introduce some romance into the night? Or that a woman refusing your kiss doesn’t have to be a bad thing? Neil Strauss’ Stylelife Academy offers effective and concrete strategies on these and many other topics.
But the point here is that there should be a method to what you’re doing with women. If you find yourself scared and nervous and unable to make a move, it’s because you don’t have a technique. That imaginary pimp you dressed up at Halloween does. He knows how to mack. You can to. And you won’t be breaking the law either.
3. Handle Last Minute Tension
For centuries, society has told women to tame or ignore their sexuality. While men are applauded for their sexual conquests, women are expected to remain virtuous and chaste. So “last minute tension” may appear where a woman fears what her friends might think if she leaves the bar with you or if she goes outside with you.
The average guy begs and pleads at this point, making her uncomfortable and making himself seem weak and sniveling. Or, he caves in completely and quickly ends the interaction like a pilot ejecting from a burning plane. But the mac daddy? He knows he has options so he doesn’t push the scenario.
To counter act last minute tension, simply agree with the woman to stop. You’re not worried and you’re not concerned. By doing this, you are respecting her initial concerns while also demonstrating that you have other options and aren’t going to lose sleep over this.
There are other ways to reduce last minute tension that you can employ throughout the evening like venue changes and introducing a woman to your house at the start of the date.
In short, you don’t have to remain rooted in fear and apprehension at the idea of kissing a woman. You can have the confidence and swagger of the pimp. You can learn how to mack. There is a system. There is a way.
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